Thursday, November 30, 2006
Abraham, Momma and Alex playing at Plum Tree Park
A few weeks ago Abraham and I met my sister and her 2 kids at a park in town. This park is called Plum Tree Park and it is the park that mom and dad used to take Kari and I to when we were younger. It is a bit strange to be taking our kids to the same place we played as kids. They still have 2 of the jungle gyms that we climbed on! The kids loved every second of it! Both Alex and Chloe wanted to swing and slide with Abraham. What a blessing for me and for Abe to have family around to spend time with and "play" with! Abraham sure loves his cousins and his Aunt K!
Tuesday, November 28, 2006
Things Parents of Angels wish you would remember
1. I wish you would not be afraid to mention my baby. The truth is
just because you never saw my baby doesn't mean he doesn't
deserve your recognition.
2. I wish that if we did talk about my baby and I cried you didn't
think it was because you have hurt me by mentioning him. The
truth is I need to cry and talk about my baby with you. Crying and
emotional outbursts help me heal.
3. I wish that you could talk about my baby more than once. The
truth is if you do, it reassures me that you haven't forgotten and
that you do care and understand.
4. I wish you wouldn't think that I don't want to talk about my
baby. The truth is I love my baby and need to talk about him.
5. I wish you could tell me you are sorry my baby has died and that
you are thinking of me. The truth is that it tells me you care.
6. I wish you wouldn't think what has happened is one big bad memory
for me. The truth is the memory of my baby, the love I feel for my
baby, the dreams I had and the memories I have created for my baby
are all loving memories. Yes there are bad memories too but please
understand that it's not all like that.
7. I wish you wouldn't think if I have a good day I'm "over it" or
if I have a bad day I am being unreasonable because you think I
should be over it. The truth is there is no "normal" way for me to
8. I wish you wouldn't expect my grief to be "over and done with"
in a few weeks, months, or years for that matter. The truth is it
may get easier with time but I will never be "over" this.
9. I wish you understood that losing my baby has changed me. The
truth is I am not the same person I was before and will never be
that person again. If you keep waiting for me to get back
to ""normal" you will stay frustrated. I am a new person with new
thoughts, dreams, beliefs, and values. Please try to get to know the
real me-maybe you'll still like me.
10. I wish you wouldn't feel awkward or uncomfortable talking about
my baby or being near me.
Friday, November 24, 2006
We had Abraham's 1 year pictures done at Picture People. Michael and I were in stitches as we attempted to get him to SIT STILL enough for the pics! He is a mobile little guy. He loved the leaves the lady put down.. altho they ended up more in his mouth than on the floor! Oh well! He is very photogenic and USUALLY likes having his picture taken... wonder who he takes after??? :) We had a very hard time choosing what pictures we wanted to buy... too bad Mimi wasn't with us!! HA!
We just celebrated Abraham's first birthday on November 1. This past year has been quite the ride for us all. We were just blessed to celebrate HIS life this day!
Sunday, November 19, 2006
Abraham at 15 days old in the NICU
Our boys - Abraham (r) and Moses (l)
Last year, after 2 years of attempting to get pregnant, Michael and I found out we were expecting... and expecting TWINS! Needless to say we were thrilled to be doubling our family. My pregnancy was uneventful up until the 22 week mark. On September 17, I began bleeding and we had to rush to the hospital. I was admitted and examined and they thought that my water had broken. This started my permanent bed rest. I remained in bed that following week and since the bleeding had stopped we thought all was ok. At 23 weeks I began bleeding again and I was beginning to go into labor with contractions and back pain. There was some serious concerns that the doctors might have to deliver the boys. We were told that at 23 weeks the viability of the boys was very low. I was given some serious medications to stop the contractions that worked - Praise the Lord!
But as of then I was on permanent bedrest until they would be born. I went on to spend another 5 weeks in the hospital in bed. Let me just tell you, I'd never wish that experience on my worst enemy. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my entire life... yet it was the most important thing I'd ever do as well. I was sent home at just over 27 weeks and boy was I glad.. Michael was too since he had been without me for 6 weeks. It was really hard on both of us.
I spent just over a week at home before Abraham's water broke. AGAIN we rushed to the hospital. It took them all morning to decide that they would let me labor so that there would be no chance for infection. My doctor got to the hospital around 7 pm and at 8:30 pm I was wheeled into surgery to have a c-section. Abraham was born at 8:44 pm, 2 lbs 10 oz and 15 inches long. Moses was born at 8:45 pm, 2 lbs 7 oz and 14 inches long. They were both whisked away to the NICU after I got a brief look at them. I was in a fog as they had to give me an extra dose of meds cause I flipped out on the operating table! A wimp am I!! :)
Abraham spent 51 days in the NICU at GMBC hospital. Moses was at GMBC for 29 days before being transferred to Johns Hopkins. They both received absolutely the best care that was possible. I can't say enough about the nurses and their care and concern for the boys and for us. They really made a difficult situation 100 times better. We are blessed to have such outstanding hospitals in our backyard.